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Left Brain; Right Brain; Subconscious: Who Is In Charge?

Left Brain; Right Brain; Subconscious: Who Is In Charge?

Left Brain; Right Brain; SubconsciousLeft Brain; Right Brain; Subconscious

I am definitely right brained. Mostly. If you’re curious to find out what you are, click here.

I’m pretty sure most everyone knows about the left brain and the right brain; the left brain is logic and the right brain is creativity. But what a lot of people don’t take into consideration is their subconscious brain.

The subconscious brain is the most powerful. That part of your brain doesn’t just control your impulses and whether or not you act upon them. Robert Kiyosaki, in his book Increase Your Financial IQ, described it like this:

It does not think, but rather reacts, fights, flees, or freezes… The subconscious mind also affects our bodily actions via bodily-kinesthetic intelligence. For example, in the game of golf, pressure may cause a golfer to choke and miss an easy putt. Subconsciously, a person may freeze and not take action out of fear of making a mistake, or stay at a job for security rather than the love of the work.

The way I look at the subconscious mind is that, whether or not you want something doesn’t matter if your SUBCONSCIOUS doesn’t think it will ever happen.

THAT is why it is very important that you always think POSITIVE! Tell yourself that you CAN do something! If you go to do something and suddenly you feel like you can’t THAT is your subconscious working against you.

Shut it up.

Put up or shut up.

If you want it, fight and eventually your subconscious mind will come around.

Comment. How do you feel about this?

Academics; Social Life; Sleep. Pick 2. That’s College.

Academics; Social Life; Sleep. Pick 2. That’s College.

Pick 2

While in college, a friend of mine, at the time, brought this up and I thought it was genius. Then I started seeing it all over the internet and the pictures that backed up his statement and I HAD to make an article about it!

Because he was absolutely right!

From personal experience, I tried to pull off all three in my final semester of college AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAND…


I eventually had to make a choice and I chose social life and academics. I got very little sleep. It was my final semester! I wanted to hang out with my friends more before I left!

But during my first 3 years of college (I graduated in 3.5 years. :D) I chose academics and sleep. My social life was almost no existent. I joined a couple clubs, but that was really one of the only times people saw me outside of class.


I graduated early.

It was worth it.

But there are some health risks to any of these. If you choose good grades and sleep, you will be considered a nerd. If you choose social life and sleep, you are called a slacker. If you choose social life and sleep… don’t do it. I know from personal experience. I got straight C’s my final semester. I was secretary of 2 clubs. Do I regret my decision, no, but I would like you to learn from my mistake. I didn’t manage my time as well as I should have.

But one thing I would like to discuss with you in terms of the “Pick 2” system, you need to be weary of other peoples’ decision. If you choose to have a social life and sleep, or social life and good grades, whether you are in high school or college, you need to understand that other people aren’t like you. They will pick another set. If you know that someone has chosen good grades/academics and sleep and you want to party, move the party somewhere else.

College isn’t just about you. If you are there to party, be aware of your surroundings. Just because you might want to party, doesn’t mean that everyone else in your hall wants to. Don’t be selfish and blast your music if you know you are surrounded by people who are trying to study and/or sleep.

I understand the impulse. I understand that you are going to go wild because you do not have your parents over your shoulder. You are free to be you and do what you want, but so is everyone else around you. If you want college life to be simple and happy, you need to understand everyone.

Calling someone a nerd or ostracizing someone because they are extremely intelligent and all they do is study is rude.  It also doesn’t help with self-esteem. Not everyone is there to party; some are going to be taking their studies seriously so they can learn a trade and get a good job. Have a career. If you want to party, fine. I suggest you don’t do that all the time, but fine. But be aware that others want to study.

BUT if you are someone who has decided to focus on academics, you also need to be aware that not all people have made your same decision. You need to understand that while you may be more into your own success and getting your grades, others just want to have fun for a while. You need to be understanding of that.

Calling someone lazy or a slacker because all they want to do is party and have fun is rude. It also doesn’t help with self-esteem. Not everyone is there to study. I understand that can be frustrating, but you also need to understand that some people came from a strict and they feel they are finally free.

The first year is a year for experimentation. This is a good time to figure out your temperament. What I suggest is, when you get the chance, have a hall meeting. Bring up these issues. Come to some sort of consensus. No one wants to be angry all year, especially not their first year.

Keep your cool.

Take a deep breath.

Think things through.

Anyone have any thoughts on the matter? Comment!

Pledge to Not Shop On Thanksgiving

Pledge to Not Shop On Thanksgiving


In retail, Thanksgiving and Christmas Day are the only two holidays that workers traditionally receive. Now that many stores are choosing to open on Thanksgiving, that break is being taken away, denying retail workers the rare opportunity to spend a holiday with their families. And most of these workers are only being paid minimum wage for their trouble.

A holiday should not be a luxury for the rich – all workers deserve time to spend with loved ones.

That’s why I signed a petition to Retail CEOs, which says:

“Thanksgiving is one of the only holidays that retail workers receive. By opening stores on Thanksgiving, stores rob thousands of men and women the opportunity to spend time with their families.

A holiday with family should not be a luxury for the rich; we believe that all workers deserve the chance to relax and give thanks with loved ones.

We, as consumers, have the power to tell stores not to open on Thanksgiving by staying home. We hereby pledge not to shop on Thanksgiving Day, to show the retail industry that everyone deserves a holiday.”

Will you sign the petition too? Click here to add your name:


The First Amendment of the United States Constitution

Congress shall make no law respecting an established religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech or of the process, or the right of the people peaceably to assemble and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.

When I Give You My Time…

When I Give You My Time…

When I Give You My Time...

Have you ever been in this position?

Given your time to someone and then they just spit it back in your face?

If you are with a group of people, in a relationship, or even meeting someone new that doesn’t appreciate your efforts it is at that point you need to realize that you don’t have to put up with that crap and move on.

And don’t regret that wasted time. Look at is as a learning experience. Now you know the EXACT personality types you will want to avoid in the future.

Was this a waste of your time? I hope not…

Why Kill Them With Kindness…

Why Kill Them With Kindness…

Why Kill Them With Kindness...
As much as I want to agree with this (and I laugh at this every time I look at it) violence doesn’t solve everything. Everything.

I was raised on the belief that you don’t get any respect until you smack someone, but that was only to apply to bullies. Not all of your friends will appreciate a violent side if you decide to show it.

If kindness works on your bully, then kudos. Otherwise, if the school system doesn’t help and there isn’t much your parents can do, a good smack might help exponentially. I’m more of a “it depends upon the situation” type person.

But if I can avoid the confrontation altogether, I’ll go that route. I would rather there be no violence.

If you can be kind in a situation, you are a better person than I. The closest I could get to your “sainthood” would be to just walk away.

What would you do if a bully was messing with you?

Keep Speaking The Truth

Keep Speaking The Truth

Keep Speaking The Truth
For people like myself who always speaks the truth (if they speak at all) know the importance of being consistent. Even if, like myself, you are called a bitch or unfriendly or heartless, be consistent.

And maybe try to change how you word yourself. I am trying, but sometimes I just snap…

Anyway, one thing someone will never call me is untrustworthy. They may say a bunch of other nasty things, but they will never say that I have lied to them. It’s actually quite the opposite; I’ve been called brutally honest.

How many others can claim the same?

Follow Your Dreams

Follow Your Dreams

Follow Your DreamsDoes this really need further commentation?

I’ll comment anyway because I have some good news!

My father followed his dream and published his first book! I made him a blog for it and everything!

The book is Am I Black? by Greg Robinson. Click here to take a look!

What are you dreams?

It’s Better To BE Alone Than To FEEL Alone

It’s Better To BE Alone Than To FEEL Alone


Sometimes, you just need to let people go and put yourself in a crowd that appreciates you.

After my four best friends stabbed me in the back, I found a new crowd and I didn’t even realize until then how draining the previous crowd was.

But, the thing is, I was by myself for a while before finding said new crowd. I was able to rest and recuperate, look at things from a fresh set of eyes.

I was exhausted. They weren’t all there. I would speak and it felt like they weren’t really listening. It felt like I was just there to fill a gap. I was the friend being walked on. Clearly. They stabbed me in the back and only of them them thought twice about it. He just didn’t tell me the backstabbing was going to happen. He lied by omission because he didn’t want to “betray” his girlfriend.

Um… dummy. If she’ll betray me, what makes you think she won’t betray you? And what makes you think the rest of them won’t betray you?

And our other two friends (the ones I reconciled with) no long associate with him and his forgetful girlfriend.

Very often.


But I digress.

That time I was able to spend by myself was INCREDIBLE! I no longer felt like space. I no longer felt like I didn’t matter.

I could do whatever I wanted and not worry about being interrupted. I could just reflect on our friendship. Or the lack there of.

But that negative energy, that lack of interest, that lack of compatibility causes you to be in a kind of forced relationship, which is very tiring. And I didn’t even realize until they had stabbed me in the back.

My four best friends dropped down into the two people I hate the most, an acquaintance, and one best friend. I reconciled with two of them like I said. Click here for the full story. Not getting into it again here…

But that experience helped me realize that out of that group, only one is really worth my time. The other is just awkward conversations. The other two have been dropped for they have yet to apologize.

Having nobody is better than having liars and backstabbers who never cared about you to begin with. Even if you did many things for them. Like reveal that another one of their friends stabbed THEM in the back by spreading rumors… hmm…

But I digress. Again.


The new crew that I mentioned before consisted of freshmen. They reminded me of something that I had forgotten; I get along a lot better with people who are either younger or older than myself. I could be a teacher’s pet when I wanted to be and I’ve always been good with kids. I’ve never really gotten along with people my own age.

I became of the overseer in my new crew. They turned to me for advice. I was the mom. I was never alone during my final semester of college because of them. We fed off each others’ energy instead of clashing with each other and fighting for a voice. That one final semester was my happiest time.

They weren’t half there; they were all in.

We were all in. I was no longer drained.

I didn’t want to graduate. 😀

My point is, sometimes you need to be by yourself in order to figure out what you want.

It’s better to be alone than to feel alone.

Have you ever been in this position? I hope not…

Not Everything Is Out To Get You

Not Everything Is Out To Get You

Not Everything Is Out To Get You

There could be a time where you are experiencing nothing but crappy days one after the other. Don’t look at it from a negative view point. The minute you allow negativity to run your life, you’ll never get anything done.

With every negative thing that happens, something positive will come out of it.

For example: If I hadn’t broken my finger two weeks before I was to ship out for the military, I wouldn’t have been able to join Empower Network. Now, I am working from the comfort of my own home, blogging.

One door closes, another one opens.

Some things are just falling into place.

Not everything is out to get you.

Think back to something terrible that happened, really think about it. Did anything good come out of it?

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